THE REWARD OF PATIENCE

Assalamualaikum guys,

How are you? Hope you guys have an amazing day.

Topic for today is about patience or in the Arabic language, (Sabr). The patience is mentioned at many places in Quran and Sunnah of the beloved Prophet (SAW), which shows the virtues and greatness of Patience. Patience is of the best from deeds and has the great reward with no limit. In this world, we face many difficulties or trials and sufferings but we have to be patient because Allah Almighty loves those who did Patience (Sabr) in a difficult time. 

So many times in our lives something happens to us and we feel that this is the worst thing that can happen to us. But then after the trial, when relief and ease come, we realize that the difficult times had happened for good to come.  So, it is important that believers have to be patient and know that Allah (SWT) is sufficient for us and is the best arranger of all our affairs. He will guide us to that which is good for us in this life and Hereafter too.

Yes, many times in life, hardships befall us. It sometimes feels like difficulties add up on one another and the light at the end of the tunnel, is merely a hallucination. That is what I felt when I am totally jobless and have no money to spent on my basic expenses. I had applied so many jobs vacancy over almost 2 years but no feedback and outcome. Sometimes I felt so useless but I know that I have to pray to Allah to ease everything.  Patience is my aid and are told to seek help through it. This necessarily means that patience will get us through an ordeal or a difficulty. It may not be easy, but those who try also have the help of Allah.

Yes, again, my prayer is answered! My patience and sabr is rewarded! I get a job with good salary at a very established company. Alhamdulillah. This is what we call the power of patience. Have faith in Allah. The ones who have the patience without complaining will be greatly rewarded whereas the one who was not patience will receive nothing.

So in times of hardships and difficulties when you think all is lost and there is no hope, remember to have patience. In due time Allah will relieve you of all worries, and you will receive rewards a million in multitude for bearing it with patience.

Remember, Allah is always with you!

HOW TO HANDLE DIFFICULT PEOPLES

We all have difficult people in our life who drives us nuts! We all have at least one in our life, someone who drains our energy with their never-ending dramas leaving us feeling exhausted, frustrated, discontent and unproductive. In fact, it is annoying. Have you ever thought, “They have to be the most miserable person in the world?” They are often very miserable. They come in every variety that you can imagine. Your friends, family, colleagues, neighbors and even unknown person.

Below are the types of difficult people that I have experienced in my life.

 THE CHRONIC COMPLAINER

Why I said they are the chronic complainers? This is because they always have something bad to say. They complain, critique and judge. Nothing's ever good enough for them. They love to focus on problems and ignore solutions. They are almost impossible to please. It is a huge challenge for those around them. Trying to remain positive, motivated and productive amid a constant stream of complaints and dissatisfaction can try anyone's patience. It’s hard to be positive when you have someone complaining in your ear all day. Nothing good in their life.

How I deal this chronic complainer?

First of all, please bear in mind that not all chronic complainer is a negative people. So, don’t judge them but listen. You need to show that you care about what they’re saying. Even if the complaints seem ridiculous and pointless, do not roll your eyes. Instead, nod your head and say things like, “I hear you,” or “I understand you”. Just listen, nod, and show that you’re validating their complaints. Then I change the subject of the conversation without making it obvious that I don’t want to hear their problem for the millionth time. It gets frustrating hearing the same complains over and over while they reject your advice, so it’s important to set your boundaries with chronic complainers. Eventually, you are not responsible for the happiness or well-being of others.

THE SUPER-AGREEABLE

What about the persons who are super nice and smilingly agree with your ideas until some action is required, then they back down or disappear? This is the "people-pleaser" who over-promises and never delivers. They avoid conflict at all costs, are outgoing, sociable, personal with others, and very attentive. They will tell you things that are good to hear and then let you down by making unrealistic commitments.

How I deal with this kind of people?

Avoid them!!

THE KNOW IT ALL EXPERT

Know-it-alls are those irritating people who act as if they are experts on every topic — even when evidence and behaviors prove otherwise. They can’t fool all the people all the time. But they can fool some of the people enough of the time, and enough of the people all of the time – all for the sake of getting some attention. They know how to learn just enough about a subject to sound like they know what they are talking about. They are addicted to exaggeration as an attention-getting technique. They demonstrate their self-ascribed superiority in a wide variety of ways, including dominating conversations, offering unwanted advice, being argumentative in meetings and bossing loved ones and co-workers around.

How did I deal this kind of people?

First of all, Don’t take it personally and avoid arguing by asking the right questions. Show your respect for his/her competence but don’t put yourself down. Don’t waste your time with this type of difficult people. Again, avoid them if you can!!

Actually, you are in charge of how you react to the people and events in your life. You can either give negativity power over your life or you can choose happiness instead. Take control and choose to focus on what is important. Be a difficult people will take away a lot of the goodness in our lives. Grateful attitudes, contentment, and a positive outlook on life can change into a person with a great attitude.