We
all have difficult people in our life who drives us nuts! We all have at least
one in our life, someone who drains our energy with their never-ending dramas
leaving us feeling exhausted, frustrated, discontent and unproductive. In fact,
it is annoying. Have you ever thought, “They have to be the most miserable person
in the world?” They are often very miserable. They come in every variety that
you can imagine. Your friends, family, colleagues, neighbors and even unknown
person.
Below
are the types of difficult people that I have experienced in my life.
THE CHRONIC COMPLAINER
Why I said they are the chronic
complainers? This is because they always have something bad to say. They
complain, critique and judge. Nothing's ever good enough for them. They love to
focus on problems and ignore solutions. They are almost impossible to please. It
is a huge challenge for those around them. Trying to remain positive, motivated
and productive amid a constant stream of complaints and dissatisfaction can try
anyone's patience. It’s hard to be positive when you have someone complaining
in your ear all day. Nothing good in their life.
How I deal this chronic complainer?
First of all, please bear in mind that not all chronic
complainer is a negative people. So, don’t judge them but listen. You need to
show that you care about what they’re saying. Even if the complaints seem
ridiculous and pointless, do not roll your eyes. Instead, nod your head and say
things like, “I hear you,” or “I understand you”. Just listen, nod, and show
that you’re validating their complaints. Then I change the subject of the
conversation without making it obvious that I don’t want to hear their problem
for the millionth time. It gets frustrating hearing the same complains over and
over while they reject your advice, so it’s important to set your boundaries
with chronic complainers. Eventually, you are not responsible for the happiness
or well-being of others.
THE SUPER-AGREEABLE
What about the persons who are super
nice and smilingly agree with your ideas until some action is required, then
they back down or disappear? This is the "people-pleaser" who
over-promises and never delivers. They avoid conflict at all costs, are
outgoing, sociable, personal with others, and very attentive. They will tell
you things that are good to hear and then let you down by making unrealistic
commitments.
How I deal with this kind of people?
Avoid them!!
THE KNOW IT ALL EXPERT
Know-it-alls are those irritating
people who act as if they are experts on every topic — even when evidence and
behaviors prove otherwise. They can’t fool all the people all the time. But
they can fool some of the people enough of the time, and enough of the people
all of the time – all for the sake of getting some attention. They know how to
learn just enough about a subject to sound like they know what they are talking
about. They are addicted to exaggeration as an attention-getting technique. They
demonstrate their self-ascribed superiority in a wide variety of ways,
including dominating conversations, offering unwanted advice, being
argumentative in meetings and bossing loved ones and co-workers around.
How did I deal this kind of people?
First of all, Don’t take it
personally and avoid arguing by asking the right questions. Show your respect
for his/her competence but don’t put yourself down. Don’t waste your time with
this type of difficult people. Again, avoid them if you can!!
Actually,
you are in charge of how you react to the people and events in your life. You
can either give negativity power over your life or you can choose happiness
instead. Take control and choose to focus on what is important. Be a difficult
people will take away a lot of the goodness in our lives. Grateful attitudes,
contentment, and a positive outlook on life can change into a person with a
great attitude.
